"When other people take pictures of me, I always look like my aunt. Generally speaking, it seems to me that older women are always supposed to look nice on photographs. But I don't wish to look nice and friendly, I'd rather look cool.
(...) Just look at how older women are portrayed! A man can still be regarded
as looking wonderful when his face shows wrinkles. When a woman's face reveals
life and wrinkles, she is no longer attractive. Her face has to be smooth, the
When fashion industry chooses older women, they are as beautiful as women in
their forties, have no wrinkles. And if they have any, they wear huge, neon
green glasses. Older women are never shown as older women. Photographs show
them doing fitness, which is absurd. Why are men not taken pictures of that
way? They have huge bellies which they confidently show and nobody would
question or criticise their body or clothes. Obviously, when it comes to men,
inner values count."
"The female gaze is certainly different. I would like to say from the outset
that the female gaze is one that perceives the entire surrounding – the children
need something to eat, they are crying, there is work still to be done, and so
on. The male gaze is focused. That is already a fundamental difference between
female and male. And when I see naked women or men, my primary concern is that
the models feel comfortable in their role, that they don’t feel exposed or that
they have to pretend. When I photographed underwear, for example, it was very
important to me that everyone felt very comfortable. And that everything was
very loose. It was also rather comical."
photograph (self portrait, 2000, © Elfie Semotan) via